🌿 Genesis & The Fall of Marriage 🍎👫
“In the beginning Elohim created heaven and earth.” - Genesis 1:1
This is first creation event in the Book of Genesis of our physical world by race of beings not of this world called the Seven Mighty Elohim. They are also known in other ancient texts as the Anunnaki, Nephilim, and the Watchers.
In Genesis chapter 2, we then see a second creation event taking place with the creation of the spiritual world and the first Spiritual Son of God.
“Then Yahweh Elohim formed the man from the dust of the earth and blew the breath of life into his nostrils. The man became a living being.” Genesis 2:7
We also see the first marriage being formed under God between Adam and Eve.
“So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’ This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” Genesis 2:21-24
THE FALL OF MARRIAGE: God didn’t create for Adam just any woman, that is just misunderstanding. God created a perfect WIFE for Him and placed them in his Garden.
“Now the Lord God said, “It is not good (beneficial) for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper [one who balances him—a counterpart who is] suitable and complementary for him.” Genesis 2:18
In a perfect world where all men knew that God exists and thus acted accordingly in their relations with their wife. A marriage covenant made under God means this:
"Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered." 1 Peter 3:7
Biblically and biologically speaking, the average woman is usually weaker emotionally than the average man. During rough marriage patches and especially if she is married to a hot-tempered man, it can be hard for a woman to be in control of their emotions sometimes and when emotions are not controlled, couples say things they don’t mean and they treat each other outside of what God commands for building a lasting marriage based on mutual love and respect.
That is why a wife should not have any spiritual authority over her husband. Again, we are talking about a perfect world with a marriage vowed under God. This would work because the husband is supposed to be spiritually mature enough in his understanding of God and of how to act in unconditional love at all times in order to care for his wife and family properly.
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
A stable level-headed husband who fights to keep God at the head of his life and marriage will be in control of his emotions during the most emotional of situations. He settles quarrels, he understands enough not to start them. This makes for a happy wife and a happy life.
"It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife." Proverbs 21:9
If a husband is not happy with his marriage and he feels that his wife treats him poorly, nagging him at least seven times a day, what actions and rebuke can he give her to make her change her evil ways?
Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?” “No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven! Matthew 18:21-22
First of all, these are questions that stem from the mind of man where Christ does not fully reside yet.
"But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God." 1 Corinthians 11:3
Any man without the mind of Christ will follow the desires of his sinful nature as soon as there is any major stress on his emotions or ego. This is because he has not yet made the ultimate choice to lay down his personal cross and whole-heartedly surrender his egotistical and selfish ways of thinking and understanding completely over to the ways of God.
"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts." Isaiah 55:8-9
Here are the top 5 typical Anti-Christian actions of a Spiritually Immature man:
1. 🙊 Ignoring or Giving Silent Treatment: This is a classic sign of emotional immaturity, where instead of addressing an issue or discussing a conflict, the husband chooses to ignore or avoid their wife. It's a refusal to communicate or acknowledge the other person's presence, often used as a form of punishment or manipulation.
"Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others." Philippians 2:4
"A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed." Proverbs 11:25
2. 🎭 Dishonest and Shifting Blame: Immature husbands may not be transparent and tend to shift blame onto their wives for any problems they face, refusing to take responsibility for their actions. This could manifest in dishonest behavior and statements like, "You made me do it," or "It's your fault."
"People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy." Proverbs 28:13
"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:9
3. 💔 Displaying Jealousy or Possessiveness: While a certain degree of jealousy is common in relationships, an excessive amount can be a sign of insecurity and emotional immaturity. They may feel threatened by their wife's friendships, accomplishments, or independence, leading to controlling behavior.
"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud." 1 Corinthians 13:4
"Thank God! He deserves your thanks. His love never quits. Thank the God of all gods, His love never quits. Thank the Lord of all lords. His love never quits." Psalm 136:1-3
4. 😡 Being Overly Critical or Disrespectful: Criticizing their wife's appearance, intelligence, or abilities, especially in public, is another sign of emotional immaturity. This may stem from their own insecurities. Respect is crucial in any relationship, and disrespect is a clear sign of problematic behavior.
"Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them." Ephesians 4:29
"May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer." Psalm 19:14
5. 🐍 Using Emotional or Psychological Manipulation: This could include gaslighting (making their spouse question their own memory, perception, or sanity), guilt-tripping, threatening, or withholding affection. These tactics are used to gain power and control in the relationship.
"Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church." Ephesians 4:15
"Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones." Proverbs 16:24
Mature Men of God know that they do not have any spiritual right to treat their wives in other way than in a forgiving, respectful, unconditional Christ-like manner.
"Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." Colossians 3:19
Real Men do not get to act like immature boys when their feelings and ego get bruised and battered. Silent treatments, bitterness and rageful actions towards a wife prove you are the weaker vessel, not her. You prove to God that you serve your own selfish plans for how your marriage should work over his perfect ones.
“You cry out, “Why doesn’t the Lord accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows.” Malachi 2:14
A husband who is not in control of his feelings and emotions is a husband who is not in control of his marriage. Sorry Men. Our inflated ego’s have been writing checks that God doesn’t cover or honor. This is on husbands to fix. Men who care enough about their marriage and about God do take responsibility for the damage and to take action immediately. Six out of ten marriages today end in failure because of spiritually immature men who have a complete lack of understanding of this fundamental Christ-like concept.
"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word." Ephesians 5:25-26
Eve made an error in allowing something to get between her and Adam.
“The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves. Genesis 3:6-7
It is not her fault under God. If Adam had been a Man of God, he would have known how to treat her honest mistake. He would have forgiven her and not repeated her mistake. He definitely would not have made the same error in following what is wife said over what God said. He would have raised the spiritual level of his Marriage and they both would have grown stronger together and under God’s protection. With sincere patience and faith-in-action work, their marriage would have been strengthened by relying on the Word of God and not the words of any other snake. It was only after they both disobeyed God that they were both punished.
When Men no longer trust in God, they start stealing from Him like they run this place.
